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It says: “working on doing better.” I say: “Stop trying to be perfect. God has a monopoly on perfection and hates competition!” Work on being better than you were yesterday! Peace, John
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“You will have fewer disappointments in your life if you learn to accept things instead of expecting things.”
I did a session with a client earlier today that focused on expectations and acceptance. When I begin to get irritated, I have learned to ask myself, “What was I expecting?” Obviously, whatever I was expecting was unrealistic given the reality. Accepting reality is the starting point. Then you can use the serenity prayer to help you figure out what, if anything, you might be able to change. If you can’t change anything (limited to your thinking and your behavior) then you’re left with having to accept what is. You don’t have to like something in order to accept it. Here’s to oodles of acceptance and fewer disappointments in your life. Peace, John
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Don’t be obsessive, BUT don’t be naive……”BE thoughtfully aware!”
It’s fair to say, “things have changed dramatically” over the last few months! What was once a “normal daily routine” no longer exists. It’s a fact that changes and circumstances bring about interruptions in our daily lives, and we learn to adjust – sometimes on our own, and at times with the love, concern, and support of others (a wonderful thing!).
HOWEVER, this change/interruption is vastly different- something I’ve never experienced in my lifetime! COVID-19 – a GLOBAL pandemic; our country, as well as others, “shut-down”, no traveling, no sports or games, no shopping except for essentials (although shelves were often empty), isolation (after 9/11 everyone came together and in both tragedies and celebrations people gathered – not now!), empty streets. The streets of NYC on TV looked so “bizarre!” And it all happened so quickly – from stability to uncertainty in “no time at all!”
As I “surfed the internet” for information, news media, read “often conflicting” articles by scientists and doctors, received an unending stream of sharing new insights from friends, and family, I didn’t like what I was feeling! It wasn’t so much fear (although I’m sure there had to be some underlying fear), but chaos and mass confusion! Very unsettling! My son and I were having a conversation about this and the chaotic events of the day; he told me of a quote that a friend would share during times of debate or discussion. “Don’t be obsessive, BUT don’t be naïve —-BE thoughtfully aware!”
I thought about that quote and “took it apart”:
OBSESSIVE: excessive thoughts or actions; constantly thinks about; fears about contamination (in this case, contagious)
NAIVE: showing lack of wisdom, judgement, information
CONFUSION: stress, sleep deprivation, information overload, exposure to new situations
That quote helped to clarify and validate the confusion and chaos I was feeling. In my quest for information, I was on “information overload!” I needed to “be thoughtfully aware” which gives me a healthy balance.
“Being thoughtfully aware” has taken on an additional dimension for me since having the conversation about it with my son a month ago. Prayer is an important part of my life; as I begin each day with meditation and prayer, I now conclude with asking God for His guidance and help in ”being thoughtfully aware” through the day. Sometimes it comes in the form of some “self-awareness;” sometimes it’s reaching out to someone that I’ve been thinking about; sometimes it’s a conversation; and, sometimes a kind word given or received. No more confusion and definitely a more peaceful place to be in!
As we now are going through the phases of “re-opening” our state, may we be “thoughtfully aware”
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Today’s guest blogger is the newest member of our Personal Growth Concepts Inc. office staff, Barbara. I thank her for taking the time and sharing with us on why and how to be “thoughtfully aware” during these trying times. ~ jp
I invite you to become a guest blogger. It’s easy à find a quote that speaks to you and write a few sentences about it and what it means to you, or what it means in general. Send it all to me in an email with subject line reading “Guest blogger.” I will review and publish it, with gratitude, and with the hope that others will benefit from it as well. If you need some help, I can furnish you with a quote or several to pick from – I have hundreds of them. Let me know. Peace, John
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Last summer, I got on a plane for the first time in 15 years. As we began to take off, I started to feel fearful. I had no control. I could not control the plane or what happened to any of us on the plane. I held on tight as we soared into the air. And I prayed.
Recently I again found myself in a place of fear, actually panic. This time it was due to my concerns over the Coronavirus. I wasn’t feeling good and I started to panic. I was short of breath and my heart and mind were racing. I was overcome with anxiety. Prior to this, I had been constantly reading articles, searching for the latest news, and I was absorbed with any updates on the virus.
When life seems to be spinning out of control, the temptation is to tighten our grip and try to control. We can expend all of our emotional energy trying to control everything around us and have nothing left. This can affect our ability to function in everyday life. When we hold on to control, we can become controlled or paralyzed by stress, anxiety, fear, worry, and/or panic. These can have a detrimental effect on our mental and physical health. When we come to the place where we recognize that we can’t control everything, we can loosen our grip, open our hands and relinquish control. In letting go and releasing control, we can experience peace.
I have a prayer journal. I write my concerns, pray about them, and let them go, knowing that God has them. That means trusting Him and leaving them in His capable hands. This takes an enormous amount of faith. What is the alternative? Living a life controlled by fear and anxiety or living in peace? What can help you to release control over outcomes that are out of your control? For me, I quiet my spirit through prayer, reading/meditating or listening to music.
You do have control over your actions, your thoughts and what you allow to enter your mind. Dwelling on the negative and the “what ifs” could cause you to spiral downward. What are you filling your mind with? What are you holding onto? What are you trying to control?
I am resting in God’s control. There is much more freedom here.
Today’s guest blogger is Kristin from our staff. I thank her for sharing her thoughts with us this way and, as I told her when I previewed her post, I couldn’t have done it better if I wrote it myself! Thank you Kristin. We look forward to reading future blogs from you. Peace, John
When’s the last time you talked to your Higher Power? Do you share your gratitude or just your troubles? Do you talk to her/him in good times or bad times? or both? Can you share any and all feelings? Someone once told me that when you share how frustrated and angry you are, it’s the highest form of prayer. Source will never abandon you.
Going to Spirit with requests is part of it. Years ago, a little book entitled, Too Busy Not to Pray taught me the four parts of balanced prayer (use the acronym A-C-T-S to remember: Adoration (aligning with something bigger than myself); Confession (admitting where I have fallen short); Thanksgiving (what I am grateful for); Supplication (what I ask).
Whatever your belief, may I suggest, balanced communication?
Peace, John
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Today we have another guest blog from my colleague here at Personal Growth Concepts, Inc, Angelina Miceli, LCSW. Here are her words of wisdom. Let us know what you think! ~ John
I have a lot of interesting discussions with clients. As we dive deep into their thoughts, feelings and beliefs, we question them often – picking apart the whys and hows. One recent diving expedition lead to a discussion about the concept of thankfulness. What even is thankfulness? And why bother?
Thankfulness is a mindset we can choose; it’s not just something that hits us one day when we feel as though we “have it all,” or have “achieved our goals.” Rather, it’s an attitude we can cultivate through reframing our focus. Oftentimes, our focus is framed so much around asking for more, hitting our next goal or recognizing what we lack. This leads us to forget what we have, or to forget what the purpose or meaning is of where we’re at in our present moment.
How can we cultivate the attitude of gratitude? The answer is both simple and challenging: by radically reframing our focus. Where we once may have asked, “what can I do better tomorrow?” we can instead ask, “what went well today?” or, “how did I get closer to my goal today?” For those who are spiritual, where once may have been a prayer of desire or asking of God, instead, shift to a prayer of gratitude or of giving thanks for the day’s blessings, both large and small. Thankfulness can be for something as simple as getting through another day, making it through the panic attack you had, or even just for the motivation to get out of bed that day. And it doesn’t only have to be thanks for what you have, either! How radical would it be to give thanks for what you don’t yet have or what you’re working toward and hopeful for? Whether it’s recognizing the progress you’ve made toward achieving a goal, being thankful for the preparations you’re undergoing to be ready for that goal, or simply putting the reality of having that goal met out into the universe, we are capable of reframing our focus from one of looking at the void, to one of fulfillment.
Remember, it’s not necessarily happy people who are thankful, but it is the thankful people who are happy. It’s the law of attraction that like attracts like. If thankfulness begets happiness and happiness attracts happiness, just imagine how much that could blossom and grow in you – all from one shift in your focus. ~ Angelina
This quote seems to be a little dated, doesn’t it? Some of us can remember when the telephone was hardwired to the wall. Then the cordless ones came, and now, the last several years, everything’s been mobile. That is how we connect with one another – even when we text, we usually do it through our phones!
It’s been said that God doesn’t call the equipped. He equips those he calls! God equips us with the perfect phone. All we have to do is use it. We need to be tuned in and aware of its ringing so that we can receive messages from God. We need to answer. We also need to turn to it and dial Him up frequently, not just when we are in trouble. Use it! Anytime, anywhere, everywhere, and there’s always a full charge of love and grace waiting on the other end for each of us.
Yes, prayer – the perfect phone! What shape is yours in today?
Peace, John
P.S. During this holiday season many of those you know/love or come in contact with, are struggling through their first holidays without a loved one or pet. This is a hard time for many of them. Please tune in to their pain and be sensitive to them during this time. They may not be participating in holiday activities, shopping, or Christmas music may be just too much for them. I am sure your gentle spirit, ability to listen without judging or trying to make them feel better, will be appreciated even if they are unable to express it. On their behalf, I thank you! Blessings, John
Native American Prayer
Oh, Great Spirit
Whose voice I hear in the winds,
And whose breath gives life to all the world,
hear me, I am small and weak,
I need your strength and wisdom.
Let me walk in beauty and make my eyes ever behold
the red and purple sunset.
Make my hands respect the things you have
made and my ears sharp to hear your voice.
Make me wise so that I may understand the things
you have taught my people.
Let me learn the lessons you have
hidden in every leaf and rock.
I seek strength, not to be greater than my brother,
but to fight my greatest enemy – myself.
Make me always ready to come to you
with clean hands and straight eyes.
So when life fades, as the fading sunset,
my Spirit may come to you without shame.
(translated by Lakota Sioux Chief Yellow Lark in 1887)
as published in Native American Prayers – by the Episcopal ChurchSuppose this week, fellow bloggers, I encourage you to make comments on this post? What from it resonates with you? What’s your takeaway that will stick with you for a while? How can you incorporate something from the above prayer into your daily routine? The easiest way to comment is to be on my WordPress account and click “comment” up near the top after the tags. If you are on FB, LinkedIn or Twitter, you can click on the link that will take you to the post on WordPress or, you can just comment through the media you are on, or send me an email – I will try to collate the comments and get them out by the middle of the week on our blog. Thank you and, please feel free to share. If you know someone who would like to receive my blog, discuss it with them, get their ok and then give me their name and email address and I will be happy to add them. Peace, John