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Or, I might add, by what others told you about yourself and who you are. If that is negative, it is shame. Also, if you come to believe that you’re the one at fault, that you caused these difficulties (when you know you didn’t), that’s guilt. These things frequently happen and are caused by abusers. Abuse is about control. Not all abuse is physical. Here are some additional forms of abuse: physical violence; sexual violence; emotional violence; psychological violence; spiritual violence; cultural violence; verbal abuse; emotional abuse; and financial abuse. If you are in an abusive situation, get to a safe place and you can call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 800-799-7233 or in Connecticut you can call 211, Infoline. JUDGE YOUR SELF gently and find support from people who truly care about your well-being. Peace, John
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A habit gets established when we do something over and over again until we do it without consciously thinking about it. Repetition contributes. We can judge our habits as good, useful, productive, or as negative, not helpful to us, or counterproductive. Where did you learn some of your current habits? Are they helpful to you?
I disagree with the last statement in the quote above. We are more than what we do, and therein lies the hope – the hope that we can change and improve any poor habits that we may have developed. I believe we are more than our behaviors. We have thoughts and feelings as well as behaviors that define us. We can change our thinking as well as our behaviors. If we have a poor habit and we want to change it, we need to become mindful of the behavior, figure out an alternative behavior that will be more beneficial for us and practice it, repetitively, until it replaces the old habit. While changing there is much internal conflict. The old habit doesn’t give way without a fight. The new habit is weak at first. Practice it, practice it, practice it! There, now you have it, the formula for changing unhealthy habits. Where in your life can you apply this formula? Peace, John
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“Do you have a case of “less-than-ism?”
A lot of us do. Some of us have a warehouse, or warehouses of cases!”
What creates less-than-ism is when we compare our selves with others and end up on the short end. This is a frequent way to put our selves down, criticize and judge our selves and find our selves unworthy. We can be unmerciful in this. The result is shame – the lies about our selves we have been told and/or come to believe because we didn’t know any better. We now know better and it is time to change this process if we want to improve our self worth, our self esteem and our self confidence.
Suppose you only compare your self to who you were yesterday or last week and focus on the growth you have made? Suppose you clear the warehouse(s) and put them into your memories of yesterday (past). When you catch your self comparing your self to others, try balancing it out. “Desiderata” by Max Ehrman tells us, “If you compare yourself with others, you may become bitter or vain, for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
Put your self on the same level as others. Say, and do, “Eyeballs (i.e. ‘I’-balls) Inward!” Practice and soon you will close the case on your less-than-ism! Treasure your self. Empty and sell the warehouse!
“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” ~ Mother Theresa
This is about one of my character defects for sure. I tend to judge people – less than I used to. The question for me becomes, if I don’t judge people “somewhat,” how will I know which ones might have a negative impact on me? Where’s the line in “somewhat?” and, if I judge them “somewhat” can I still love them? I think the answer lies in judging their behavior, the choices they make, but being able to love them for who they are, human like me and capable of poor choices. I think Mother Theresa had it right. Judging someone and loving them unconditionally are mutually exclusive. Who have you judged recently and what can you do to separate their behavior from who they are and to resume loving them?
Merry Christmas and Happy Holidays to each of you reading this, and to your families and loved ones. Peace, John