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A habit gets established when we do something over and over again until we do it without consciously thinking about it. Repetition contributes. We can judge our habits as good, useful, productive, or as negative, not helpful to us, or counterproductive. Where did you learn some of your current habits? Are they helpful to you?
I disagree with the last statement in the quote above. We are more than what we do, and therein lies the hope – the hope that we can change and improve any poor habits that we may have developed. I believe we are more than our behaviors. We have thoughts and feelings as well as behaviors that define us. We can change our thinking as well as our behaviors. If we have a poor habit and we want to change it, we need to become mindful of the behavior, figure out an alternative behavior that will be more beneficial for us and practice it, repetitively, until it replaces the old habit. While changing there is much internal conflict. The old habit doesn’t give way without a fight. The new habit is weak at first. Practice it, practice it, practice it! There, now you have it, the formula for changing unhealthy habits. Where in your life can you apply this formula? Peace, John
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Setting realistic and measurable goals is important. Writing them down and reading them daily helps you achieve them. When you start trying to figure out where you want to be or what you want to accomplish, you use your brain, your thought process. If you get too many feelings going on when you try and set goals for yourself, they may interfere with the process. They may also interfere with your attainment. Be mindful of your feelings while you work on your goals, but persist. Frequently feelings can sidetrack you from the effort you need to reach your goals. Accept your feelings and work hard to achieve your goals.
Peace, John
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This quote helps me understand why it is so difficult for many people to make changes. Not changing protects the comfort zone until the comfort zone begins to fall apart due to emotional pain. Not changing is like water building up behind a dam. The dam is only so strong and, at some point, the pressure breaks the dam and floods the valley. Do you want to wait until that happens or would you rather open the dam a little bit, reduce the “pressure,” let some water through and still have some sense of control?
To make changes in your life is challenging. When you begin to get uncomfortable you might think about changing but then “all the reasons not to,” kick in. Even when you attempt to make a little bit of a change, there is a certain discomfort trying something different for the first time. The old habits resist the change and the new ways aren’t strong enough to settle into the healthier pattern yet.
My suggestion: start small, be mindful and persist. Persistence is what pays off. The easiest way to change a habit is to find an opposite positive habit and keep repeating it until it becomes automatic. When you’re repeating the new habit you’re not reinforcing the old one. Soon it will atrophy (fancy word for “waste away through disuse!”)
Now that you have this wisdom, what little corner of your life are you going to start changing today? You are worth reducing your emotional pain and reducing your fear at the same time! Two-fers!
Peace, John
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