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As the new year is here, it’s a good time to reflect back on the goals you set for this year. Where did you want to be at this point in 2017? Did you abandon some of the goals? And if so, which ones and why? There may be some good reasons or, could you have modified them? Did you quit too soon? What might have happened if you had persisted? Remember the hare and the turtle?
It’s also a good time to set goals for 2018. Remember, they need to be S-M-A-R-T goals: Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Realistic and Time-bound. Why not set 4 or 5 goals for yourself that meet these criteria. Tony Robbins, the motivational speaker, suggests you write them on a 3×5 card and read them every day. This way your conscious mind and your unconscious mind get paired together and they become easier for you to accomplish. I did that several years ago, two years in a row, and I was amazed at what happened.
Why not head into 2018 with a game plan to run on all 4 tires and be amazed where you can go? Persist!
Have a happy and blessed New Year!
Peace, John
Visitors – sometimes you know ahead of time they are coming and sometimes they invite themselves and, unannounced, just knock at your door. Feelings are like that. When we’re awake and conscious we are always feeling. To get in touch with what you’re feeling at any point in time, say to yourself, “I’m feeling______” Fill in the blank with a word or group of words that describes your experience. Feelings are inside. Feelings are like a kaleidoscope – one pattern leads to another pattern, leads to another pattern, etc. Sometimes the kaleidoscope turns slowly and other times more quickly. Whoever said, “feelings aren’t forever” was probably right. Specific feelings are not forever – your feelings-life evolves and you may see some patterns that you saw before.
When the above quote says “let them come and go” it tends to imply that one has a choice. I’m convinced they are going to come and go and you have little control over their coming and going. For many people, letting them go seems to mean getting rid of them. This won’t work. A better alternative is to just accept them and their comings and goings. Be aware of them but also understand they are only one part of you. You are responsible for what you think about them (thoughts) and do with them (behavior). Trying to get rid of them will only make them stick around more. Two feeling rules are: #1 identify what you’re feeling (see above) and #2 accept your feelings as part of who you are right then.
How are you handling the many visitor feelings that show up daily in your life?
Procrastination gets you nowhere, fast! Remember, “not making a decision IS a decision!” Making decisions is challenging. There’s a time to decide and a time to wait. Waiting too long can leave you passive (passive-aggressive?) and not an active participant in your life. When you’re in the river and drifting, you’re going wherever the river takes you. If you want to be in charge of your life, you need to set a goal and make conscious and deliberate decisions to go in that direction. Once a decision is made, the real challenge often becomes implementing it. What frequently holds us back is our negative projection, our fears of not being able to achieve it or carry through with it. It takes a lot of faith but I have found in my life, once the decision is made, the above quote is definitely true. For me the people, resources and ideas do materialize. Please fill in the following blanks:
What has stopped me from making healthy decisions in the past is: __________________________________________________
Where/how did I learn to make decisions about my life?
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What decisions can/should I make today? This week? This month?
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If I do, how might my life change?
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And remember… “EVERY TIME!”