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Emotionally, sage advice, don’t you think? A lot of people think they can’t heal from a variety of abusive experiences. Not true! Healing is possible. Staying away from current abusive situations is important because a wound can’t heal while the knife is still in it wiggling around. Once free of abuse, finding safe people to be supportive and a program/habit of sharing your feelings, your experiences and discovering new ways of behaving are helpful in the healing process. All must be done in safe places and with safe people. Remember: who you associate with is what you learn, what you learn is what you practice and what you practice determines who you become. Work on becoming! Peace, John
My staff and I spend a considerable amount of time repairing those “broken adults.” A lot of it involves re-parenting, i.e. , caring about, teaching and role modeling. There is no instruction manual for new parents; most do the best they can. Some parents didn’t have good role models and don’t know how. Many, in fear, don’t want to make the same mistakes they think their parents made, so they do just the opposite. Opposite strategies usually aren’t much better. Think “middle of the road.” Children need to learn respect, how to compromise and negotiate, good decision-making and how to think logically and rationally for themselves and about others (empathy). It’s been said, what children live with they learn, what they learn they practice and what they practice, they become. If they weren’t fortunate in having healthy parents, they can relearn, but they have to make the choice to hang out with healthier people and learn different ways of thinking, behaving, and dealing with their feelings. Getting a set of healthier friends and a good therapist usually helps. It’s twofers – it helps them and their children! Win-win, definitely a different way for them to think! Peace, John
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When I deal with people, I see them as a combination of thoughts, feelings and behaviors, all wrapped up in what I call soul or spirit. As such, feelings are a part of you. I believe too many people give too much power to their feelings and, when they have a strong one, believe that’s who they are. Thus, if one feels a lot of anger, they might say “I am angry.” When they say it that way, I’m pretty sure they are feeling angry feelings, thinking angry thoughts and usually acting/behaving angrily. In short, they ARE angry – all parts of them are angry. If they were to try saying “I feel angry,” then only a part of them is feeling angry – the other parts are free to think and choose to act differently. So, don’t be afraid to feel what you feel. It’s only a part of you. It doesn’t need to be the part that is in control of the other parts of you. You get to make that decision!
Peace, John
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“It only takes one person to change your life–YOU!” ~Ruth Casey
It’s been said that 95% of the cells that make up your body die and are replaced gradually over a seven-year period. That means that several years from now, you could be an entirely different person! That’s in the physical realm. What about the psycho-emotional realm? I believe that, if you want to change your life, you can be a different person in less than seven years! It takes mindfulness, having a game plan that makes sense and, sticking to it (i.e. persistence). It takes an openness to change, a willingness to change old habits, old ways of thinking and behaving into new ways of thinking and dealing with situations. It usually also takes a different way of looking at the world, dealing with your feelings and making healthier choices. Are you up for it? What can you do today to begin the process of changing your self?